We hike the mountain of shirts, pants, skirts, bras, dresses, and countless shoes, making it to the peak completely breathless. Yet instead of jamming our flag pole into the ground and relishing the fact that we have overcome Mt. Shopping Spree, we loudly cry…”I have nothing to wear!” See men just don’t understand this concept fully. And as a bit of explanation to men, we say “I have nothing to wear” but when translated it truly means, “I don’t have the RIGHT thing to wear”. This is why even though our closet doors are bulging and we have a separate room for shoes, we MUST go shopping for an event…any event. Wedding, Funeral, vacation, family reunion. You name it, we shop for it. So, I have to admit I am not the least bit shocked that the most pressing question on the poll was What do I wear. And I am sure most of the ladies who answered that way, grabbed their purse car keys and were waiting for a response so they knew which store to run to.
That being said, STOP. Put down your shopping supplies. Sit down for a moment and relax. Just breath. Now when I put down the answer “what do I wear” I have to admit it is a double question. I am not going to tell you to go to the lingerie store and grab lace and leather here, not that you can’t of course. But the way to really answer this question is to ask, Who am I? What do I love to do? What are my hobbies? What do I surround my self with? What makes me FEEL sexy (by the way, as a side note I didn’t say what do I think other people will find sexy, I said what makes YOU feel sexy). Believe it or not I am not trying to do a lingerie magazine…I am trying to capture…YOU. The whole boudoir shoot is about YOU. So sit down and write a list of your hobbies, loves, and anything important to you that you would like incorporated into the shoot.
“Do I consider myself sexy? I all depends on the way I’m feeling. When I’m happy inside, that’s when I feel most sexy.” – Anna Kournikova
Now that you are thinking about this in the context of Who am I” instead of “What do I wear” I will give you some ideas. These are inspiration though, not the rule, or what I think you should do. These are just to get your creative juices flowing.
Lingerie of course is awesome…Any lingerie. Now maybe you are thinking, but hey lingerie isn’t a hobby or anything. Well, I know some ladies, myself included, that it probably is a hobby by itself, but that isn’t what I mean. Have you ever put on a piece of lingerie that made you just feel sexy? I mean one of those little numbers that makes you stand up straight and all of a sudden you are a little minx instead of just the mommy, the wife, the student, ect. You are hot. I know for me it was thigh highs and garter belts. I don’t know why but they just make me feel like I’ve “got it”. When I discovered them I would just wear them to wear them. Under pants and everything. No one could see them, and it sounds so silly, but it would boost my confidence and I just loved wearing them. CONFIDENCE IS SEXY.
If your hobby is shoe collecting, bring your shoes…wear a pile of them. You love them, so why not?
Music- bring your instrument…trust me a guitar or keyboard can cover a lot…or a little depending on what you want. Bring a favorite band shirt. Whatever it is that you are into.
Sports- love football? bring a jersey. Rock climbing…your harnesses. Every sport has “accessories” and apparel to go with so bring them with you.
Cooking- aprons, baking dishes, flour. Really anything.
Painting or arts- bring some paints…an easel. A camera.
Obviously there are countless ideas and there is no way I could name everything. But anything you love to do there is a way to show it an bring it into your shoot.
You are your significant other in the military? Bring your uniforms (or theirs) metals, dog tags, or even an American flag.
Housewife- much like the cooking “apparel” except a way wider variety of “tools of the trade”
Doctor or nurse- bring your scrubs, stethoscope, anything involved.
Fireman or other public servant- Uniforms…Wow we all love uniforms
Business woman- snag a tie, briefcase, heck…post-it notes.
You really just have to think of who you are, and you will find you have an unlimited amount of the “right clothes”. There are just too many things to even list. But this will at least give you an idea of some creative ideas.
Now of course, the last subject…we mustn’t forget those accessories. Suspenders, ties, hats, jewelry, gloves, boas, sheets :)
Anything you love, bring it. I know this is the difficult part for women, but understand YOU are what makes you sexy.
I hope this answered some of your questions at least about what to wear. If you still have a few feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Thank you ladies so much for joining in on this topic, and please feel free to leave comments and ask questions.